Its about time we girls have a heart to heart.. healthy food is great and all but this post is about a different healthy practice that gets pushed under the fuckin rug and trampled over like that guy you shoved deep into the friend zone 5 years ago. (sorry bud, we are all rooting for ya)
GIRLS. Stop being so BITCHY and INSECURE and own the BADASS self that you ARE.
Stop pushing others down just to bring yourself up and stop comparing yourself by “hotness”
Apparently this year I’m all about the SUPER late new years resolutions so lets just pile another one on – in 2019 I will not mindlessly gossip about another girls appearance. I will not compare myself to any girl that happens to be dating or sleeping with someone that I have dated / slept with. I will not assure any of my friends that they are prettier than their ex’s new boo. I will not hold hate in my heart as a means to make myself feel better in some fucked up way. This is my official notice, I refuse to participate in the girl hate. I’m not here for it. For the last year I’ve really been trying to filter my negative words and thoughts, especially those centered around other women. We all do it, and if you claim sainthood here, do you girl but you know in your heart I speak the truth.
We perpetuate a culture that allows us to be put up against each other.
We have created the premise.
We have provided the tools.
Recently, an ex informed me that I was a 7-8 on my best day and his new boo was a 10/10 on any day
And it made me sad.
Not because I care what number I am to someone on a scale designed to be a hurtful jab, but because I realized that all of the comparing that we do as women sets us up to be targets of this hurtful deteriorating behavior. And girl, if your reading this, I’m here to say you are BEAUTIFUL and I mean that truly.
We women are a powerful force to be reckoned with, but can you just imagine how strong we could be if we could learn to support each other and stand up for each other fiercely?
Not just stand up for your bestie or your main bitch, but stand up for the women you don’t even know, for the ones you disagree with and even those who you no longer call a friend. The thing is, we don’t all get along as humans and that’s just the way things are BUT does that give us the right to degrade someone’s character or judge them by their looks? It doesn’t.
I challenge you to join me in this resolution for 2019 – and well the rest of my life. I challenge you to hold more love in your heart and I challenge you to set an example for all the women around you, young or old.
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